krwks:
http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2015/07/grilling_feminism_and_masculinity_a_grand_unified_theory.html
This article “Grillax, bro: I’m a feminist dude and I hate that I love to grill” is, amazingly, even worse than it sounds. The whole thing is a nauseating self-parody but in particular
[Grills] enable what scholars call homosocial contact, a kind of same-sex intimacy that deflects the supposed dangers of sexual contact between men but allows them to confirm their masculinity by excluding women. Grilling, in other words, allows these characters to cozy up to one another while still maintaining their understanding of themselves as truly manly men.
Yeah dude, for real. The thing guys do called “having friends” is actually gay as fuck when you think about it. Isn’t it pathetic how men need a grill to be in the picture so they can perform the activity called “hanging out” without admitting that there’s latent gay sexual tension in the air? People are so easy to see through, lol
The reality is that the SJ-tribe enjoys saying “lol, ur a fag” just as much as the anti-SJ tribe does, but instead of using it to condemn effeminate behavior, they use it to condemn masculine behavior. Such as “oh, you’re playing sports? ur running around with a bunch of sweaty guys chasing balls? yah totally hetero bro.” In both instances the intended and actual effect is the same - to dictate the roles people find themselves comfortable playing. And in this article we see the result - look at this guy’s intense anxiety, even guilt at the fact that he’s performing an action as innocuously masculine as grilling up some burgers and therefore “has become a bro”. What a pitiable state of mind.